Thank You All !!

A fantastic response, a fabulous turnout and a wonderful crowd made the Mega Fun Fair 2012 a mega success. We thank everyone in making this event a grand event !!

We thank all the parents, students, teachers and everyone who is a part of The Palace School family. It was a great team effort that made the event what it was.

Everyone went back happy and cheerful, especially the lucky Raffle prize winners. Heartiest Congratulations to them !!

The carnival saw an overwhelming response to all the zones; be it the kids zone, the games zone, the food zone or the dance floor. Each zone was jam packed with adults and children alike, because as promised, there was something for everyone to enjoy at the fair.

We once again appreciate all the efforts of the people who worked day in and day out for this event to take place and finally those who were present at the fete to make all the efforts worthwhile !!

Principal

Urvashi Warman

‘Clean Jaipur’

Dear Parents,

Under the aegis of Princess Diya Kumari, The Palace School has taken an initiative to contribute towards ‘Clean Jaipur’ to increase the awareness and civic sense amongst the children. As a part of this project we plan to involve our children to work towards the same in the form of various activities such as writing slogans, making posters and cards, drawing competitions, writing and enacting skits, writing limericks, parodies, poems etc….We request parents/guardians to be a part of this project so we may teach our children to become responsible citizens of our city.

We also request you to help your child list out the various ways by which we can keep our city clean to make it one of the most beautiful heritage cities of the world. The best suggestions shall be forwarded to the Mayor of Jaipur for necessary action. The suggestions should have measures which can be taken up both at the individual and government level. We look forward to your whole hearted cooperation and involvement in this noble cause.

We wish you all  A Very Happy New Year.

Principal

Urvashi Warman

Effective Parenting

Kids can be tough to deal with and even tougher to raise and this is especially true of soon –to–be teenagers and teenagers of course.

There are a lot of things parents can do to help their children survive this turbulent phase and also maintain their sanity.

Growing up children have a tendency to argue and rebel for every little thing. Pick your battles wisely. Do not get sucked into unnecessary ego duels by letting the little stuff go while coming down firmly on bigger issues.

Try to recall your own rebellions at that age and do not get caught in I-Never-Thought-Or-Acted-Like-This- At-This-Age.Please understand, the environment you grew up in was not fraught with over exposure of all things sundry.

Try to empathise with the child. Understand how the child perceives and defines his world.

Respect your child’s quest to be his own persona within the constraints of peer pressure and the pressure to conform to social rules and regulations.

Learn about playground politics and lend a careful ear when the child vents his frustration.

Guide him to fight his own battles with the full knowledge that you are always there for him.

Learn to listen patiently and effectively even though the child might be behaving unreasonably or maybe being pig headed and selfish.

Understand the lure of substance use and find out what you can do to protect your child from drug and alcohol abuse.

Instil a desire   for involvement – be it in academics, hobbies, sports – anything which will help to channelize their physical and creative energies in a proper way. It is an excellent way to keep them from becoming obese, irritable, hyper emotive couch potatoes.

Promote a sense of spirituality which will always keep the child rooted to the correct values in life and provide him the inner strength to face the competitive world.

Set rules that are fair, clear, concise and above all consistent. Ensure that the rules you spell out are to be followed by everyone in the family and following them does not fluctuate with your moods.

Find and retain the will to parent wisely, even though your child may profess to hate you at the moment.

In your efforts to help your children, try to set them on the path of developing a good self image and a healthy self esteem as well as providing discipline so that their behaviour remains within reasonable bounds.

It is rather tough as a parent to have the maturity and patience to deal with growing up children in an effective manner. Even tougher to maintain that fine balance between being giving, gracious and over indulgent; to decide how much is too much or too less….it takes parental savvy, communication, asking others for help, vigilance, awareness and continually working with your child even if the child chooses to rebuff you.

Most of all it requires a lot for intelligence and courage not to buckle under the pressure of tantrums. It really helps to develop a family code of ethics and values to stand by and set a known boundary for the family members to respect and maintain.

Happy Parenting!

Robotics

Can we imagine a world without technology today? Can we think of limits to a child’s creativity?  The obvious answer is No.

Children love to freely explore the world around them. To integrate the concept of ‘learning by doing’ with the theoretical concepts of maths and science learnt in the classroom, we at ‘The Palace School’ are proud to say that we have introduced ‘Robotics’ in the annual curriculum for classes IV to VI for the session 2011-12.

In the Robotics class the students get to design their own robots as part of a team, thereby encouraging team work and multi tasking, creative and lateral thinking, and at the end of all being filled with an exalted sense of achievement to see their hand-made models come to life !!

It’s truly an amazing sight to watch the little geniuses at work with utmost concentration and focus, grit and determination to get their model working at the earliest, and when it does, the rejoicing is unparalleled.

We just hope that this wonderful learning environment continues to get the support of the parents and is instrumental in directing the young minds of our students towards more productive and innovative thinking.

Mrs Urvashi Warman

Effective Parenting

tender care

Dear Parents,

I have observed modern parents and find it amusing that when it is time for them to say a ‘no’ to their child, they say it almost with a sense of apology in their voice and a lack of conviction in their demeanour, which often reeks of acquiescence. This appears to be a part of modern belief that we should negotiate with our children because it is more egalitarian and its so much nicer to endear ourselves to them, as opposed to challenging and upsetting them. This also reflects our misplaced concern that to demand our child’s compliance through compulsion (if necessary) will in some way be quashing their character and preventing them from expressing themselves. Parenting with flimsy boundaries might make us feel as if we are being ‘nice’ but while at first our children may enjoy getting away with things, they will boundarieseventually feel that their parents don’t actually care enough to do the hard work of parenting. A child can eventually work it out that the lack of time and effort on the parent’s part is often compensated with a lenient and over indulgent attitude and soon the child begins to exploit this weakness to suit his convenience which eventually has a negative effect on his upbringing. Such a child often feels unsupported and is likely to experience more problems. As is the case of authority, boundaries make children feel safe and secure. While they may not act or look happy when we impose a consequence, setting boundaries and enforcing them shows children that they actually matter to us-that they are loved enough to motivate a tired, overworked parent to deal with them as opposed to taking the easier option and conceding. We’d all prefer to enlist a child’s co-operation and even endear ourselves to them in the process-but parenting also involves the not –so –feel good aspects.

So, do not be afraid to strike the right balance for your child. Keeping your child smiling, happy and tear free  24 x 7 is NOT the correct parameter of effective parenting. Please remember, as parents and teachers, we must provide structure and support for our children, even if it doesn’t taste good. Clear and consistently enforced boundaries teach our children the protocol of life, so they can grow up, fit in and cope.

Though it may take years, our children will appreciate it especially when they have children of their own.

All the Best.

Mrs Urvashi Warman

Welcome back to School !


Dear Parents

Welcome Back!

We welcome all of you back to school after a hiatus of two months. I am sure you have utilized this time to relax and rejuvenate yourselves and are ready to take up the post vacation period with renewed vitality and vigour.

Almost all parents are too busy these days and probably always were. Throughout history, mothers and fathers have worked exhausting hours in fields and factories, had far more children than most of us do today, had none of the conveniences we consider essential , and yet faced fewer parenting problems as compared to parents today. An interesting observation and one wonders why? When thinking of ways to support children’s well being the idea of boundaries, rules and the consequences of breaking them, along with the notion of exerting authority over children would to many seem a contradiction in terms – or a throwback to the 1950s . In the recent trend towards so called positive discipline, parents have been encouraged to be friends with their children to provide them with choices in many matters and to negotiate more.

Yet the result has not been what we expected. An indepth research in this matter clearly shows that although paved with the best of intentions, this permissive approach has actually been highly counter productive. Without clear boundaries and clear figures of authority children develop a sense of entitlement, self centredness and they are also less happy, secure and socially viable.

The chants of ‘put children first’ grow louder day by day thereby setting in severe confusion in the equation between the parent – child and teacher – child relationship. ‘Children first’ , no doubt should be there but not at the cost of effecting parenting . We are confused : unable to confidently distinguished between being authoritative and authoritarian – the former being discarded completely in the fear of turning the latter. There seems to be an unconscious misperception that authority and sensitivity, love and compassion are in some ways mutually exclusive and that by exerting authority we, in some way, diminish the caring we want our children to have and the love and trust we want to feel from them.

Some parents have difficulty in setting and enforcing limits and boundaries for their children, unconsciously deciding that being their friend is more important than being their parent. But if you stop a while and think: friends are equals so when parents try to be friends it sends a confusing message . When our children break our rules, misbehave , we’ll need to enforce the right behaviour , but our children won’t understand the sudden change of role. This constant oscillation between the friend and the parent role (with the parental role coming into play mostly in negative circumstances) creates inconsistency in our role as parents and undermimes our children’s feeling of security . Being a parent doesn’t necessarily turn one into a foe….it need not be an adversarial relationship, but simply one in which we make it clear who is in charge. This gives our children a solid, secure base from which they may explore the world. Despite what they say , do or portray , our children are after all just children and don’t know how to ‘do’ life yet. If they feel that no one is in command and behaving like a parent, they’ll often challenge our (lack of) authority, trying to provoke us into rising to the bait.

A top priority, for all parents is promoting their children’s healthy , happy development. Rivalry, jealousy, hostility, anger, tendency to throw tantrums , be manipulative with emotions are all characteristics which no one wishes to see in their children and these can be dealt with correct role play.Although our society may have ‘moved on’ children’s needs have not , and they never will: clear boundaries and figures of authority alongwith discipline and consequences are a basic health and well being requirement for all children across time and space.

It is time for a wake up call to all parents to learn to be assertive and authoritative without being dictatorial and didactic .

Here’s wishing you a successful year ahead.

Mrs Urvashi Warman